more strict connection timeouts

llarp/utp/linklayer.cpp

@@ -330,7 +330,7 @@ namespace llarp
                                   const AddressInfo& addr)
     {
       return std::make_shared< OutboundSession >(
-          this, utp_create_socket(_utp_ctx), rc, addr);
+          this, NewSocket(), rc, addr);
     }
 
     uint64

llarp/utp/session.cpp

@@ -194,10 +194,12 @@ namespace llarp
     bool
     Session::TimedOut(llarp_time_t now) const
     {
-      if(state == eInitial || state == eLinkEstablished)
-        return false;
+      if(state == eConnecting)
+        return now - lastActive > 5000;
       if(sendq.size() >= MaxSendQueueSize)
       {
+        if(now <= lastSend)
+          return false;
         return now - lastSend > 5000;
       }
       // let utp manage this